Jack Posobiec of Human Events Daily spoke with Libby Emmons on the to discuss relationships, and what women and men are getting wrong today as marriage and family are on the decline.
Emmons kicked off the segment by saying that if you are going to fall in love, you need to ensure that you “are falling in love with someone who is going to value your heart, value your person, value your offspring together, help you create a secure lifestyle in which children [can thrive], value your opinion, all of these things.”
Emmons struck to the heart of a predominant trend in the US, which is the rate of divorce among first- and second-time married couples. According to a 2023 report, between 40-50 percent of all first-time marriages end in divorce. Second-time marriages have an even higher rate, ranging between 60 and 67 percent.
She continued by noting that the US has strayed from the concept and values of the traditional family, which can be explained by a number of variables. Emmons went on to suggest that one cannot know how to properly navigate a traditional family if they have been brought up in an unstable environment, pointing to the fact that she, herself, comes from a family where divorce is generational.
She went on, noting that her 13-year-old son had asked her: “How am I going to have a stable marriage if everyone’s been divorced in my life?” And she replied to him: “Well, we’re going to work on it. Because I want that for you.”
Emmons drilled down into the concept of trust within marriages, and that the concept of trust has gone away in many cases. She goes on to say that too many people “spin off their desires,” suddenly chasing after someone else other than the person they have committed their lives to.
Posobiec responded by referring to the trend of “disposable relationships,” which are relationships that have no intent on going all the way; they are small, low-impact relationships based on nothing substantial. He goes on to say that there are words that should “we never should have even started saying,” such as “gaslighting” and “narcissism.”
Posobiec suggested that women who suddenly dispel the man they were with as a “narcissist” or “they were gaslighting me” as little more than a false justification in their mind “so that [their] own decisions, in retrospect, weren’t actually the causes of the relationship to fall apart or whatever argument led” to the accusations.
Emmons mentioned the fundamental value and virtue of promises, and keeping promises that are made “before God and everyone.” She said that if promises are made that can suddenly be subverted or changed on a “whim,” then they are not promises at all. The implications of a promise suggest that, regardless of the hardship, the couple is going to grind it out together, because they trust and love one another.
She continued: “I think the decline in marriages is a real tragedy. The decline in two-parent households, I think, is a real tragedy.” She went on to mention the importance of the man leading the family, adding that “everyone [in the relationship] has a role to play. And I think the man needs to be the spiritual leader in the family and needs to make sure that his wife feels secure and safe and cared for so that she can take care of him.”
Emmons also touched on the fact that the wife needs to feel stable in the relationship. Women should be able to “take care of the children without feeling like the bottom is going to just drop out underneath her at any moment. How can you raise a stable family? How can you make sure that your home is tidy and cared for?”
Emmons conceded that she would likely be canceled for saying it, but she said that the woman “wants to take care of their man. They want to take care of their children. They want to feel valued in that way. And the way that you can do that best is when you know that the man is taking care of you.”
“And I think [this] is overlooked in our culture. And I think that, you know, I think that it leads to decline.”
